After Your Move :
Building a support network in the new community
- Review your inventory and ask the movers to call out each box number as you carefully cross them off. Be sure all are delivered and crossed off before you sign the inventory sheet. When you sign you are indicating that everything has been delivered and you have no claim for loss. Indicate any and all damage on the inventory sheet. If you discover any damage to your household goods indicate damage on the inventory and call your moving company to report the damage.
- For an additional fee moving companies will unpack your goods and remove all packing materials. If you choose to unpack yourself indicate on the inventory he following, "Subject to inspection for concealed damage or loss". This will assist you should you discover loss or damage once the movers have gone.
- Check all appliances, water heaters, and furnaces.
- If you discover any damage do not attempt to repair or polish it as this will only serve to make the damage appear older. This makes it more difficult to attribute the damage to the moving company.
- Movers are not responsible for items packed by owner (PBO). If you discover damage to a box you have packed yourself keep the box as this indicates the box was not handled properly.
People experiencing tough times report they feel better if they have the support of family and friends.Your informal support networks are the personal ties you have with others. Friends, relatives and other people you turn to for comfort, advice or help are your "support system." Your informal support network helps in many ways. For example, a support person: Listens to your concerns. Helps think about alternative plans and brainstorm ideas. Comforts you when you're down. Helps with material needs.
Identifying Your Support Network
To help you identify your support network, answer the following questions.
Write in the names of people who give you support:
Who listens to you when you need someone to talk to?
With whom do you share good or bad news?
Who appreciates you?
Who appreciates you for what you do?
Who stands up for you, even when they might not totally agree with what you're doing?
When you need advice, to whom do you go?
When you have a problem, to whom do you turn?
Who helps you make decisions when you need to think through options and consequences?
The people you named for each of these questions are an important part of your life; you depend on them. They form your informal support network. In turn, you also give them support. As you look over the people you named, ask yourself these questions:
Are there one or two people (spouse or friend) whose name shows up often?
Are you leaning too heavily on these members of your support network?
Do you have needs that are not being met?
Which of these needs are most important to you now?
Who else could fill the needs you have?
Who could help you meet your needs if you were to take the risk of asking?
What specific steps could you take to expand your support network? What things
can you do this week? Next week?
Building A Support Network
Part of your daily goal should be making friendships that will add to your support network. This process is like making a patchwork quilt; a variety of pieces are added over the years. Sometimes an unusual piece adds some special quality that you had not expected. Sometimes you may need to patch over places where the material has faded or worn thin.
Supportive friendships often come about indirectly from working and socializing with others. In order for this to occur, it is often necessary to first reach out to others by:
Taking time for your family.
Volunteering your time to community groups and organizations.
Visiting your neighbors.
Joining a club or hobby group.
Your support system may help you through the stress of a personal financial crisis.
By reaching out to others and taking advantage of their support and friendship, you can gain strength to deal with your problems and an ability to take control of your situation. In addition to your personal support network, you can use community agencies for support.